Do you ever feel like you are just running in circles? Do you feel like you are doing the same thing over and over again... ?Do you ever feel like you never have enough - time, money, things...?
Well, the thing is, we live in a time when doing more has become a status symbol. The constant state of 'busy' is somehow a good thing. Don't get me wrong, there needs to be action...but we also need to balance action with non-action - with BEING instead of DOING. It is in the times of being, that the magic of life really happens. Just because we aren't DOING, doesn't mean nothing is happening. When we put something in motion, it takes some time to build momentum - it is in the patience of the pause, that those things we cannot see or touch, is happening.
For example, when I plant a seed in my garden, I have to water the seed and make sure the soil it is in has some sustenance. It may take a couple weeks, but eventually we can see a tiny plant sprout above the surface. Now just because we couldn't see it before, doesn't mean that seed wasn't working to crack open and make its way through the dark to find the light above the surface. Giving time for the tiny seed to grow above the surface is just the beginning. More nurturing - sun, water, shade, night etc, will allow the tiny plant to grow stronger (both at the root and at the surface), and finally, we will see it bear fruit (flower, fruit, veg etc). Then it dies, just to go through the same process again.
So in a way, there is this wheel continually moving through the same process, but in fact, each year the plant grows back it becomes stronger and more able to withstand the elements of outside forces. So, if you keep coming back to something in your life that seems familiar, or a pattern keeps repeating itself, trust that you have more understanding and a stronger foundation each time around. Look for the lessons that you can take away, so the next time you can withstand the outside forces that are coming at you around the situation.
Self care and self love are often overlooked in our lives.
Here are some things I do to really take care of myself. It is here that I can really connect inward, to that place inside that feels calm, steady, grounded and peaceful. This is the place of the pause, the place of BEING, which will allow you shine light and insight on your experiences & life.
1. Have a bath. Light some candles, put in some epsom/sea salts or essential oils, turn off the lights and just lie there. Quiet your mind and let go.
2. Sit in nature. Whether it is beside a river, at a lake, in the forest, at the beach, or even in your backyard. Take time to just sit. To listen to the sounds around you and breathe in the air. Close your eyes. Lay down in a field. Sit under a tree. Connecting to nature helps us to become grounded in a way that connects us to our centre.
3. Lay down and focus on your breath. Breathe in and breath out. Follow your breath.
4. Put your legs up a wall and breathe.
4. Put on some calm music or a guided meditation. Sit or lay down. Try meditation. Follow your inhale and exhale. Empty your mind and just BE.
5. Book yourself a massage.
6. Go for a float (sensory deprivation tank).
7. Go for a sauna or steam.
8. Take a restorative yoga class, or learn some of the postures and practice them at home. This practice is really about being. Laying on cushions and props. Connecting to your breath, and letting your body and mind settle.
It is so important to take care of ourselves in these ways. It allows our nervous system to calm, to rest. It keeps us connected to our centre - to our core. It helps to be more present to what we are doing in each moment. Making decisions when we are calm and grounded helps us to be rational and come from a non-reactionary place. Taking care of yourself, is loving yourself. We could all love ourselves a little more xo